the doctor will see you now
I never quite put much thought into the whole male/female gynae issue. Maybe because female gynaes are severely outnumbered, I just decided to go with a male one (who’s pushing 70 I think). At first, I was definitely uncomfortable with the idea that some random dude would be well-acquainted with certain body parts, but then again, having some random chick do it is just as bad.
I have friends whose husbands will not let them go to a male gynae. As if he’s going to pull a fast one and try some monkey business. Ok, seriously, it’s not a pretty sight, and these gynaes are looking at body parts all day. I doubt they are going to pay much attention unless you happen to have some unusually large growth attached to your ass.
Even then, that’s not hot.
Good thing the husband was around for all the gynae visits, so it mostly felt like I was some specimen on display. There would be the gynae, the husband and 2 nurses standing around while I was being poked and prodded.
And of course the delivery was the absolute worst. I swear I have no sense of modesty left. In total, there were at least 10 people bustling around in the operating theater while I was sliced open like a piece of meat. I was too stoned from the epidural to care, but on retrospect, it does put everything into perspective. All I cared about was getting the baby out and then getting all sewn up nicely.
That was just the c-section experience. I hear that during vaginal delivery, all that pushing makes u defecate all over the delivery bed in front of a whole bunch of strangers. The thought of it alone is too embarrassing for words, which is why I’m going to stop eating 2 days before my EDD. I don’t mind the slicing, but I draw the line at crapping my guts out on the table. I mean, just think about the smell.
But that’s the thing. For those guys, it’s just their job. Some folks work with computers and some work with vaginas. At the end of the day, it’s all the same. Except more gross, I guess. I really feel sorry for the nurses that have to clean up after the whole debacle is over. Till this day, just cleaning my son’s ass is enough to make me regurgitate (I totally can’t keep a straight face).
Anyhow, I don’t know if there’s a difference between male and female gynaes cos all the ones I’ve tried so far are guys who are so old I’m surprised they can hold a scalpel with steady hands. Do the poll below -in favor of dudes/chicks checking out your itsy bits? and I’d love to hear if you’ve got a weird experience with either.
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Actually I prefer male gynaes, i donno why. Especially those who are caring and patient and smiles a lot, like mine (heehee)…male gynaes just feel more professional to me. But there’s another guy gynae whom i dont like cos he speaks faster than the train (due to his long queue of waiting patients) and I don’t catch anything he said after every appointment.
And no, i don’t go for gynaes pushing 50, unless he looks like Richard Gere.
So you prefer young gynaes? I thought the older ones would be more professional with more experienced and also less likely to monkey around as their hormones would have been depleted by their advanced age.
Its pretty interesting that quite a few people have voted in favour of a female gynae, anyone who has been to both care to share differences?
Better still, if a female gynae can protest here about gender stereotyping, would be awesome, LOL.
@Daphne, hello…I’m chuankuei’s schoolmate in jc. you probably don’t know me but came by your blog on his FB – just wanted you to know I really enjoy reading your blog and think Truett is a real cutie. I haven’t had a baby or anything but on the gynae issue, I’ve heard this theory that male gynaes may be more sensitive to a lady’s bits whilst females may actually end up being a bit brusque because “we have the same bits so what’s the big deal”. Don’t know how true this could be but just throwing it out there…
@Elaine, Hi there! that would explain why the nurse for my first delivery was pretty rough when teaching me how to breastfeed. A male would have been way more tender with my nipples.
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Came here throu Yuling.
Thats a nice post. I voted :) I haven’t bee to a Gynae still. but I voted :)
LOL! i had it both ways and the natural delivery without epidural, you’re not conscious of any form on integrity left on you. all you can think of is “get the baby out now!” cos the pain shuts everything else out.
c-section, fully awake and aware of your legs wide open while the nurses attach the urinal bag and all.
I think there is nothing wrong with a male gynaecologist. I think that males who specialize in this field of medicine have a higher sensitivity and objectivity when it comes to diagnosing a pregnancy as compared to a woman. You can also take comfort in the fact that a male doctor will probably not take your pregnancy for granted being that he has never experienced, nor will experience it. But bias aside i think it boils down to a matter of comfort and preference. Some women lilke male doctors whils some prefer a more feminine touch.
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