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Daphne

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7 things every happy mother should have

1. A mommy time-out corner. Like a regular time-out corner, except it’s a place for mommies to send themselves to when the kids get out of control. Nobody is allowed to talk to me when I’m in my time-out corner, those are the rules. It’s also good for when I just want to hide out from the kids for a little while. Or maybe a long while.

2. A favourite hair stylist. I make an appointment with my hair person every 2 months or so and I always come back feeling better. I get to spend 2 hours browsing magazines and sipping tea in absolute peace and quiet while she helps get my ridiculous grey hair situation under control. Win-win.

3. Like-minded mommy friends. Mommies need mommy friends and that’s all there is to it. And not just any kind of mommy friends but the ones who know what it’s like being in the trenches. Mommy friends who don’t bat an eyelid when your toddler face-plants into the floor mid-conversation. Mommy friends who can give helpful mom-hacker tips. Mommy friends who don’t judge.

4. A pick me up. I have several. When things get rough, I head to the kitchen to pull a shot of nespresso. When things get really rough, I reach for my secret stash of bubble tea in the fridge. When things get crazily out of hand, I grab a spoon and eat some ice-cream right out of the tub like a badass ice-cream eater.

5. Exercise routine. Even if it’s once in a few weeks/months/years, it still counts as a routine, y’all. Maybe when the kids are all in primary school, I’ll join a gym with proper classes but for now, Jillian Michaels and me, we’re best buds.

6. A hobby. I used to have lots of hobbies when I was younger – shopping, sleeping, reading, playing the guitar, watching dramas, collecting records, cross-stitching (for real!), arranging music on my playlists, writing, taking pictures, playing basketball. These days, I often tell myself that I don’t have time for hobbies but I find that when I make time for it, my mind gets settled and I feel more fulfilled as a person. It’s a good feeling to have.

7. Dance break. Everyone needs a dance break every so often. When hiding out in my mommy time-out corner doesn’t work or when the kids are getting really unstoppable or when we’re all having a bit of a slumpy day, I put on some music and we all take a dance break. And then everyone feels better.

What’s on your list?

Finn

And now for a Finn moment

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Felt like we got an extra weekend yesterday and it couldn’t have come at a better time. It arrived in style, bringing a morning thunderstorm along with it.

Mmm…morning thunderstorms and midweek holidays, they’re a perfect pair if ever I’ve seen one.

Baby Finn was up at 6 for his milk and there’s usually a 50-50 chance that he’ll drink up and decide it’s time to play. I’m trying to rehabilitate him because let’s be clear – there’s a time to play and 6 in the morning is not it. This morning, he sat up (bad sign!), listened to the sounds of the thunderstorm raging outside the window (good sign?), started clapping?? (super bad sign), then just as suddenly flopped down onto the bed beside me (phew, great sign!!).

This would normally have been my cue to go back to sleep but it felt so perfect lying there listening to the long, deep, contented breaths of my baby next to me. I must have listened for over an hour, playing with his hair, running my fingers along his cheeks, whispering “mommy loves you” and draping my arm across his chest to pat him ever so lightly.

Moments like these were so rare because he’s the definition of restless. When he’s awake, I have to do my snuggling in 15-second instalments. I only get to clock in extended snuggling hours when he’s out cold and even then, his subconscious gets annoyed when I kiss him too many times.

So finally, after I got my fix, I slowly pulled out my hand to get out of bed but as I did, he grabbed hold of it and made me put it back across his chest to resume the patting. He was awake and wanted me to do my overly affectionate mom thing.

It was like being bestowed a great honour by a restless baby.

Best feeling ever. 

PS. In unrelated news, we also went to the playground for a little bit after the rain cleared up later in the day.

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