About Me

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Hi, my name is Daphne.

So I started out wanting to have 7 kids – true story.  Then I went ahead and gave birth to one of these adorable but demanding tiny humans and immediately decided to scale back considerably…to 4. Okay, maybe 5, I’m not sure yet. I’m still mulling over that one. :)

I’m married to the man of my dreams and frankly, the finest specimen of the male species anywhere in the world. He makes me laugh at the most inappropriate moments, tells me everything is ok and then makes it so, gives me his last scoop of ice cream and is pretty much my best friend in the whole world. He makes parenting fun (even when it’s not!) and this man is the only reason why I’m able to do this. We’re talking legendary dad level dreamboat material.

Life with 4 kids is everything I hoped it would be. Actually, it’s even better. You know how it’s like when you dream of having something all your life and one day, you get it and it turns out to be so much better than you imagined it to be? Yeah, exactly like that.

No, really, what is it like having 4 kids? 

There’s a lot of mayhem. On an average day, I feel like everything is out of control at least 5-6 times each day. On really rough days, we all have ice-cream for dinner and we call it an early night. **Okay, this just happened that one time and it’s clear that I need to rethink this strategy because since then, the kids have been all like “Is it a bad day today, mommy? How about today? I think today is a super bad day we need to have ice-cream for dinner.”

This life is often intense and full of um, excitement! but it also makes my heart a thousand times bigger and fuller and more wonderful.

And you know what else this life is full of? Chubby thigh rolls. Goofy little faces. Juicy goodnight kisses. Snuggles. Tiny humans telling me that I’m the best mom in the world. The sound of uncontrollable baby giggles. One can’t have too many baby giggles, is all I’m saying.

Sometimes, it feels unreal, having lucked out 4 times with the best kids I could possibly ask for, and I fully intend to spend every day of my life loving on these babies.

I’m just really glad I get a chance to be their mom.

45 Comments

  • Reply Jillian Livingston April 1, 2009 at 1:34 am

    It’s true that we think we know what we are getting ourselves into but once we are there we wonder how we could have had such grand false perceptions!

  • Reply Buckeroomama April 22, 2009 at 4:30 pm

    Chanced upon your blog… fun reads, your posts.

    (BTW, I left a career in media before being a WAHM, too!)

  • Reply Diana July 10, 2009 at 11:54 am

    Hi there, chance upon your blog from mth. :)

  • Reply Blissful Dork September 8, 2009 at 2:23 pm

    Wow. So inspiring. I too had to say goodbye to my first love of stage acting. YOur right, motherhood is very lonely. But we make the best out of it. As you say, thats the way the cookie crumbles. I say, it is what it is. I’m adding you to my blogroll.

  • Reply sunflower April 26, 2010 at 11:36 pm

    Hey, got to know your blog thru May 10 Mother and Baby magazine. I like your writing!

  • Reply Finally, a website dedicated to making more babies April 30, 2010 at 1:59 pm

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  • Reply Lee Li Liang June 15, 2010 at 7:57 am

    Chance upon your blog….I like it…makes my morning….

  • Reply Clueless October 3, 2010 at 7:31 am

    Hi chanced upon ur blog and found it interesting … Kuodos to u!!! I m a SAHM with 1 kid and another on the way … Was wondering if u could share some of ur experience on managing 2 kids alone … Like u I m sceptical abt getting a stay-in helper …

  • Reply Life with a Mini November 1, 2010 at 3:54 pm

    Hi,

    LOVE your work here! Looking forward to reading more great posts!

    xx Kelly

  • Reply Magdelin Huang November 29, 2010 at 10:27 am

    Your post are really interesting! I like it very much! Do keep me updated ok? :D

  • Reply Pat Pat December 19, 2010 at 8:26 pm

    Blogs about children are never irrelevant. Its the parents’ way of documenting their growth, difference – sharing it with everyone else the joy of parenthood.

  • Reply Shufang January 26, 2011 at 11:43 pm

    Hey Daphne!
    Great blog! Remember how our Chinese teacher used to tease us about speaking English all the time? Voila! You now have a great blog with good writing to boot.

    Am also a newly minted mummy and you are right. It is wonderful! Reading all your entries to learn loads while I breastfeed.

    Catch up with you over high tea someday.

    Shufang your secondary school classmate

    • Reply Daphne January 27, 2011 at 3:36 pm

      Shufang!! Haha how could I ever forget the wonderful days of liu lao shi? Did you manage to go for the AHS reunion with the rest? Your girl is so cute! We should do a playdate or something, we can exchange contacts on fb ok.

  • Reply Jean February 2, 2011 at 7:53 pm

    Nice blog. =)
    what’s your host details?
    im using a free one and just ran out of space. =/

  • Reply Susan April 9, 2011 at 12:31 am

    I enjoy reading your blog. Peppered with a wicked sense of humor that is lacking in our uptight society.
    Always love to read blogs of parents who enjoying the journey of being a parent.
    Susan´s last post ..Teaching your toddler responsibilities around the house

    • Reply Daphne April 9, 2011 at 9:24 am

      Thanks Susan! That’s really sweet, appreciate it!

  • Reply eric May 2, 2011 at 8:07 am

    hi, daphne,

    nice blog, great reads … i like

    eric,
    father of 2
    eric´s last post ..It is Election Time for Singapore

  • Reply Arnie May 4, 2011 at 4:12 am

    think i just found a new blog to read. i’m a copywriter, from singapore and currently working overseas. so it’s really great to find a local POV that’s witty, irreverent and smart. good stuff.

  • Reply Susan May 6, 2011 at 7:25 pm

    A friend passed along your posting – you blog. I love your joy of being a hands-on Mum. Lovely family pics!
    Susan´s last post ..BLESSED POPE JOHN PAUL II – BE NOT AFRAID!

  • Reply Robert May 7, 2011 at 8:00 am

    Your kids look cute. I am also jobless like you, just enjoying the moment.

    Hey today is polling day. Happy holiday.

  • Reply Kellie August 2, 2011 at 1:35 am

    Hi Daphne , your blog is great ! Let me know that being a mother can be so relaxing . Maybe I still adapting being a stress-less mother. Haha!

  • Reply Wayne August 10, 2011 at 6:39 pm

    Hi there. Greetings all the way from the mother of Asia, China

    Stumbled across your blog and have found it very interesting, though funny.

    Thanks for being honest, transparent and witty!

  • Reply Sueann September 4, 2011 at 10:10 pm

    So I’m not a mother. Hell, I’m not even married. But I must say that I love how you write. And it makes me happy because not many Singaporean bloggers can capture my attention and make me laugh the way you can. So thank you for blogging. (:

  • Reply Shalny September 26, 2011 at 11:44 am

    You are indeed an awesome writer.
    Leaving a message here to show my greatest support :)

    With Love:
    Mommy Shalny

  • Reply Ming October 3, 2011 at 12:04 am

    oh yeah, i’ve been called a bum too, amongst other names… *argh* they should try to be a SAHM and survive one week by themselves!

    and to explain my decision to dedicate my youth to my little one, i also started sharing my blog… here’s my journey. :) http://blog.mybabyfootsteps.com/?p=4

  • Reply pallavi fernandez October 20, 2011 at 2:21 pm

    Dear Daphne,
    I happened to stumble upon your blog, as i was obviously researching on how to bring up two kids( am due with the second in feb). Am not sure if found what i was looking for specifically but i truly enjoyed reading every word and also relating to almost every experience that you have so humorously shared. It does take a lot of effort to look at the funny side of things especially with two kids who have a mind of their own.That for me is inspiring. Highly qualified , about to be mom of two, and desperate to work (albeit from home), It couldn’t get more frustrating for me. But reading your blog I realize this is a phase!!!
    so thank you for making my day today!!!

    P.S. you do have a way with words .. however ordinary the situation!!

  • Reply Eileen October 28, 2011 at 5:36 pm

    Hi there

    Just like to ask you where you got your Arms Reach Co-Sleeper from in Singapore? Cant seem to find it anywhere.Appreciate if you can email me. Thanks!

  • Reply Katriina November 2, 2011 at 3:32 pm

    Daphne, I found your blog after a Facebook friend posted Mother Inc.’s hilarious Toddler Rules of Possession. I really enjoy your beautifully-written and irreverant posts (definitely not “irrelevant”!) I am a mum of two myself (two girls, aged 6 and nearly 3). I tried continuing my full-time job as a lawyer for several years before choosing to stay at home. I’m loving the extra time with my kids; the jury is still out on which of my two career-paths has been the more demanding. Let’s just say that these days I echo the words of my mum, who stayed home with her three children for 10 years, and when asked if she worked, would reply, “Not for money…”

  • Reply Katriina November 2, 2011 at 3:34 pm

    oh crap, sorry, should have been “irreverent”…
    don’t you just hate bad spellers? :)

  • Reply maddysmum January 26, 2012 at 10:01 am

    I love the way you write! You are a kickass writer indeed. You should write a book.

  • Reply Natasha June 19, 2012 at 12:04 am

    Hi Daphne!

    I love reading your stories! They make me smile and laugh. Good luck with baby Finn and I can’t wait to read more stories!

    Natasha

  • Reply Anonymous July 1, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    daphne from e86?

  • Reply Hameeda November 8, 2012 at 6:52 pm

    hi, i read your article in the TODAY paper. I felt a simillarity between you and me when i read it. I am also a mum who is not career minded and would love to stay at home to be with my son. I have only one and that gives me even stronger reason why i should stay at home. I love to have more kids but no luck so far! thus would love to stay at homw with him. i have tried numerous work from home job most of them were just scams! For the past 2 years i have been working half day mornings. But the pay is very little. With rising transport bills. It is very difficult. The good thing about my timing is i come back when he is back from school. But he will be going to Pri 5 next year thus i would again love to stay at home with him to coach him. Pls do advise or assist me if you have any legimate home based jobs.

    Thanks a million,
    Hameeda
    9029 0659

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  • Reply Online Shopping Singapore June 27, 2013 at 11:25 am

    Hi,
    Great writing you have. I really enjoy reading. Keep up the good works.

  • Reply Ann Grubbs 'n Critters October 22, 2013 at 6:21 pm

    Hi there Daphne!

    I stumbled upon your blog from a link, read a few of your posts and find that you have a wicked sense of humour which I like! :) Love your About Me page – very refreshing! I’ll guess I’ll just have to start following you. ;p I have really enjoyed your writing.

  • Reply Ally December 9, 2013 at 12:03 pm

    Congrats on No.4 coming!

  • Reply Sharon March 5, 2014 at 8:45 am

    Came across your blog while browsing for work from home jobs. I am a new SAHM – still deciding on SAH or SAW (stay-at-work) part.. hehe… anyway, your blog is a great read! love it!..

  • Reply deborah June 10, 2014 at 11:32 am

    Hi I love your posts and photos.
    Can I just enquire what camera do you use for your pictures?

  • Reply yin September 2, 2014 at 6:56 pm

    Hi Daphne, I’m not a mom yet, but I’m a huge fan of your blog! Love your writing style and the photos :)

  • Reply GoPapa March 9, 2015 at 4:14 pm

    Great reading here.

    I am new to the world of blogs. Hope to enjoy the journey of blogging.

    http://www.gopapa.sg

  • Reply Sarah April 20, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    Not even a mother but I love reading your blog! :) May have lol-ed one too many times at work

  • Reply Antz March 3, 2016 at 10:38 am

    Love reading your blog and can feel the happiness you get from 4 kids :)

  • Reply Leonard March 3, 2016 at 11:33 pm

    Not even a parent yet but I sure enjoy your content!!
    I am a kid’s entertainer as well and I can’t wait to have my kids.
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