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July 2010

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Flower power

One time we brought Tru to the beach and we came across some flowers growing under a tree so I started getting all excited like “Tru, look, there are flowers!“. I should probably preface this by saying that this little sensitive guy of mine loves flowers. A lot. The very first word he said clearly and with gusto was “FLOWER!” When he’s throwing a hissy fit in the car, he stops whenever we drive past this stretch along ECP with pink, orange and lilac flowers at the divider.

You should probably also know here that I’m not a flowers and candy kind of girl. The husband used to buy me flowers from time to time and I have to admit, I never quite knew what to do with them. I’m like “oh, great, more flowers” and pretend to smell them but honestly, they’re not pretty enough for the trouble it takes to keep them alive. I mean, I’ve got to change the water everyday, arrange them in the vase nicely (I don’t know how) and when they die, they start to smell pretty bad if I forget to chuck them in the trash. I’d much prefer like an iPad or a new techie gadget, which I eventually found a tactful way of communicating to the husband. (I think I may have said something like “flowers are dumb, get me an iPhone instead“)

But back to my extremely macho, albeit flower-obsessed little man. He saw the flowers, ran and squatted down beside them and smiled his million-dollar smile while shouting “flowers, momma, so many flowers!

So I mirrored his enthusiasm. “WOWWW that’s really nice sweetheart,” I said.

He reached over and carefully plucked out one tiny yellow flower, held it gingerly and walked towards me. Then he put it into my hand and said “for you, mommy.

I think this is what they meant when they said that being a mom was the most awesome thing in the world. Seriously, best present ever.

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I should stop being so weird.

Quirks, we all have them. A peculiarity of behavior that we can’t explain or understand, really. Some are cute, others weirdishly charming and some downright bizarre. Most of mine were acquired during childhood and they have been honed to perfection these 20-some years. I can control them if I need to (like when I’m trying to impress a guy or at an important meeting) but not for long because after a while, I get all irritable and twitchy.

Here’s my list of all time favorite quirks.

1. Walking in between the lines of tiles in the pavement. I absolutely have to avoid stepping on the lines, even if I end up walking like a very uncoordinated gargoyle. Two small steps, then one large step, and so on. Depending on the size of the tiles, I modify my steps so that they’re just right. If I manage to complete the whole pavement line-free, I win!

2. Eating my fishball skin first before eating the meat. Same goes for Ferrero Rochers and those 9-layer cakes. I’m very systematic about my eating habits and one time, the husband took a huge random bite out of my 9-layer cake while I was meticulously peeling off layer by layer. Let’s just say that I was really upset at having my masterpiece destroyed.

3. Always going for the left side first. I brush my teeth from left to right. I wear my left shoe first. I always clean my left ear first. I cut my left fingernails first. Starting from the right just makes me very uncomfortable.

4. Counting my candy. This is so subconscious and most of the time, I don’t even realize I’m doing it until I reach 25, by which time I’m all like “shoots, I’m doing it again, stop counting, stop, stop it!” I count every single m&m while I eat them and when I’m done, I count everything that’s left in the bag. Multiple times.

5. Singing in the shower. Seriously, I can’t help it. I don’t sing at the top of my voice because that’s just too weird, but I do it just loud enough for me to hear. And also, when the song is really groovy, I dance. Stop judging me.

The list is way longer than that but some will go with me to my grave because it falls under the bizarre-shit-nobody-should-ever-know category. Anyway, I’ve recently discovered that Tru has a list of very interesting quirks as well. Things like these:

1. He doesn’t eat soft food. He used to eat porridge and mashed up baby food as a baby but one day he just decided that it was totally gross. I think it gives him a weird feeling in his mouth and food he stays away from include mashed potatoes, chee cheong fun, porridge, and peanut butter. Yes, he hates peanut butter. I gave it to him once and he scrunched up his face and shivered like he had never tasted anything so foul in his life.

2. I’m not allowed face out when I’m patting him to sleep on my bed. That creeps him out big time. Every time I face away from him, he climbs over, grabs my face and tells me to “turn around” so that he can see me looking at him while he sleeps.

3. He’s got to have all his toys lined up beside him on the bed before going to sleep. There’s the precious blanket, Kirsten’s duck (good thing I have 3), his 3 care bears, his Playskool butterfly car, his giant Tweety Bird soft toy (that thing is almost as big as him) and his group of assorted bears. He gets upset when they’re not in their proper places and if one of them is missing, he screams bloody murder until it’s found.

Right now the quirks are still cute enough for me to go all googly-woogly about instead of screaming “What’s wrong with you??? Stop being so weird!!!” And if I ever do, that would just be me calling the kettle black, wouldn’t it? You know what they say after all, the apple doesn’t fall very far from the tree.

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86, the magic number

My grandma turned 86 over the weekend, which was reason enough for the entire family to gather for a massive celebration. This sort of shindig only happens 3 times a year – on Chinese New Year, my grandma’s birthday and Christmas. We had 4 generations in 1 chalet at Downtown East, now that’s what I call a par-ty!

I also finally managed to get a chance to jam on Rock Band (because despite my awful psychomoto skills, I’ve always wanted to be a drummer and if I wasn’t doing the whole kids thing, I’d run away on tour and be a badass drummer, or maybe just a bad one)

I think my grandma was happy though, with the whole family around. When I turn 86 (oh that’s a scary thought!), I’ll throw a blowout party and make everyone dress up as the Brady Bunch (with the hair and everything), it’ll be so much fun. For me.

That’s the whole family right there.

We don’t really do posed group shots but it was nice to finally get a picture of all the cousins (Gen 3, we call them) together. Here we’ve got Gen 1, 3 and 4, like some cheesy new age Chinese action movie.

Some great shots of the kids with their great grandmother.

One word: priceless.

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The adventures of Captain Poopypants

So I’m a little behind on the toilet training. Which is to say that both kids are still safely clad in their nappies all day and all night. Its not for a lack of trying either, especially since I’m not exactly a huge fan of the diaper-poop-cleaning business.

I’d much prefer to have them to do their stuff straight into the toilet bowl and then just press a little button to see it all disappear like magic.

I’ve read up on all the toilet training techniques and I’ve tried them all. Making Tru sit on the potty, asking him if he needs to go poop, giving him stickers to incentivize successful toilet sessions, but he hates the potty. Every time I put him on the potty, he says “all done” before his rectal muscles even have a chance to contract. So I do what every good parent does – lead by example. I once half-squatted on the potty (I wasn’t sure if it could support my weight and it would be embarrassing to break his potty during my brilliant demonstration) for a good 5 minutes showing him how it’s done and the whole time he was laughing his ass off saying “mommy funny“. So much for leading by example.

I waited for another few months and upgraded him to a training seat over the toilet bowl. This time, he was happy to sit on the training seat for a long time but for all the wrong reasons. He would alternate between yanking out the roll of toilet paper and reaching over to flush the toilet a hundred times because well, it is kind of therapeutic. See, I wouldn’t mind trading a few flushes if he actually managed to do his thing on the training seat but 10 minutes and not a drop. Yeah, trust me, I checked.

Some folks say that the only way is to bite the bullet and let them go diaper-free, which I also tried. So far, all I’ve gotten for my efforts are pee puddles on my floor. Most days, I’m glad to find the puddles because the alternative is to locate the foul-smelling dried patches of pee after 2 days. That’s possibly worse than having to clean poop off the diapers if you ask me.

Anyway, the point is, I think I’m ready to start toilet training. If not, my son will set the record for being the oldest kid clad in diapers five years from now. In other words, what I’m really trying to say is HELPPPPP!! You’re welcome to take my kid over for a week-long toilet training boot camp or if you have a secret toilet training method, let me know and I’ll do it.

Well, except sitting on the potty again. That, I’ve already done thankyouverymuch.

not feeling so supermom

And so I live to fight another day

I need a happy picture today because its been one crazy week. (Which one isnt, right? Do I hear an amen, mommas?) But it’s always exceptionally tough when the kids are sick. Don’t ask me how I survived the last 3 days with Tru quarantined at home, spreading his germs and general irritability. He’s like my Siamese twin whenever he’s sick, extra clingy and stuck to my hip all day. Now that they’re finally getting better, the husband is down and I’m barely holding out.

I’m glad today is Thursday, because that means my weekend starts tomorrow-ish. The whole family is going to gather for my Grandma’s birthday bash (a 3-day affair) so that’s going to be fun. Plenty of people to fuss over the kids while we sneak off to chill out by the beach. Or catch a movie. Or sleep. I miss sleep. Sleep is good.

Yesterday, baby girl woke up early from her nap because of the sniffles, feeling all miserable and looking the part. I’ll admit, I was pretty bummed because it was supposed to be my only clear-my-crazy-schedule quiet moment in the day, on the very day that I had a ton of emails to answer, work to clear, laundry to fold and of course, who’s forgetting the mountain of unwashed dishes that are threatening to eat up my kitchen.

But there she was, looking at me with those baby eyes, like “I need you now mommy!” which is my cue to drop everything and snuggle in bed with her until she feels better.

These are what I call crunch-time moments, the motherhood-defining ones. Moments like these, I literally stop and remind myself why I’m at home in the first place. Sure, I could make better use of my time to earn a few extra quid or keep the house spick and span. Or I could be a mom and be there for them when they need me now because I know in a couple of years, they’re not going to want to snuggle and it will be weird for me to blow raspberries on their thighs and kiss them all over a thousand times.

All this time I’m thinking that I make them feel better but truth is, they make me feel a whole lot better too.

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Arsenal signs promising new starlet

With the World Cup finally over, the spotlight is now on the big money transfers as clubs make their move for superstars to bolster their chance at silverware next season. I hear Liverpool fans are celebrating the capture of Joe Cole (aka tightpants) and Barcelona, they’ve added David Villa and Adriano to their scary list of big names.

On the home front, a little birdie tells me that Ferguson has his sights set on German captain Philip Lahm (nice!) to fill that problematic right back position. I am also still keeping my fingers crossed for Buffon, Ozil and Torres (just imagine a Rooney-Torres combo up front, oh sweet dreams are made of these)

Meanwhile, Arsenal, with Wenger’s ridiculous youth policy, are planning to lower their squad’s average age to 5. As a Mother, Inc exclusive, I’m pleased to announce their latest star signing, Truett Kao, who will be filling the boots of Barcelona-bound captain, Cesc Fabregas.

Thanks to my *contacts*, I’ve managed to score an interview with the hottest young thing in the footballing world.

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Mother, Inc: I think the biggest question on everyone’s minds right now is why Arsenal, when there are so many teams to choose from?

Truett: Jersey soft soft. Truett like red color.

Mother, Inc: I think you’re forgetting that Manchester United is a nicer shade of red, but I guess you can’t argue with the soft bit. So what do you think of the Fabregas debacle? You think he’s going to stay or go?

Truett: GO KAI KAI!! Let’s go feed the fish!

Mother, Inc: That’s a nice strong throw you got there. Is that part of your daily training regime? Any fancy footwork to share with your fans?

Truett: Truett kick the ball… GOALLLL COMEON!!!

Mother, Inc: Oh, that simple aye? So what else do you like to do when you’re not kicking a ball around or busy feeding fish?

Truett: Sit train! Mommy can go sit train please, please?

Mother, Inc: Why yes, yes we can. But just 2 rounds and you go back to doing laps. And we also have to work on your choice of teams, I think we can start with getting you the latest Manchester United jersey, its quite soft as well.

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A very pink affair

Yesterday was Kirsten’s first birthday bash and as first birthday bashes go, this went splendidly. The fact that we only sent out invites 3 days prior notwithstanding, we had all the ingredients necessary for a party – food, family, friends and cake. And also balloons, lots and lots of balloons. (thanks Kev and Anne!)

Baby girl wasn’t entirely sure what the commotion was all about, like “why are all these people making me wear stupid prickly hats, it’s making my ears itch eww eww eww.

She’s in a no-headgear phase now and no amount of cajoling and bribery will make her put anything on her head. I try to make her wear these pretty headbands with giant flowers to draw attention away from her noticeably sparse hair and she yanks them off with a flourish every single time. The noggin is sacred, y’all.

And of course, miniature parties are never complete without miniature-sized friends, because it would just be a bunch of old fogeys rocking out to pink and purple balloons, which is just kind of creepy.


Tru was down with another bout of the flu, which left him pretty stoned the whole time but he was a real trooper, shuffling around distributing his precious collection of sesame street friends. Towards the end, he was all maxed out and he started telling everyone to go home like “Bye everyone, thank you for coming, see you soon, Truett very tired.” It was both very impressive and mortifying at the same time.

At first we thought of ordering one of those 3D cakes with castles and princess figurines but we figured that we will be having plenty of those soon enough, when the kids are old enough to want one. And since we have a weakness for this awesome home-baked chocolate-banana cake, we went and ordered a 2kg version, hoping that we would have leftovers for breakfast today but no, it was totally wiped out within minutes.

You know I don’t usually plug a lot of stuff here but this cake, you seriously want to try. Go check it out, she does the most wicked cakes ever, with the perfect combination of rich, chocolatey goodness without being an overkill. Sometimes, I plan events just to have an excuse to have more cake. And I’m not even kidding.

Best part was, both kids were so exhausted they went home and collapsed into bed at 7.30. Now that’s what I call a successful party.